For those who have never experienced divorce, it can be a word that drums up fear or perhaps judgment. For Christians who have considered or have walked through divorce, it can be a word that carries the weight of crushed hopes and dreams for the life they never thought would end up the way it did. Divorce has always been controversial, a hard topic for Christians to wrestle with and work through together. Because of this, many avoid discussing the topic altogether. But for Christians whose marriages are crumbling around them, the need for helpful, Biblical resources is a must.
The dos and don’ts of dating when you’re separated but not divorced
Biblical View Of Dating After Divorce & What The Bible Says About Dating While Separated
Of course, the Bible has absolutely nothing to say about dating at all because dating is really a 20th Century phenomenon. But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else go back to him. And the husband must not leave his wife. The above Scripture is pretty clear here that separation is allowed but not desired. And in the 21st Century, the purpose of Christian dating should expressly be to find a Christian wife or husband, right?
The Reality of Christian Marriage – Separation Occurs Here Too
Marriage was the first institution established by God in the book of Genesis, chapter 2. It is a holy covenant that symbolizes the relationship between Christ and his Bride or the Body of Christ. Most Bible-based Christian faiths teach that divorce is to be seen only as a last resort after every possible effort toward reconciliation has failed. Just as the Bible teaches us to enter into marriage carefully and reverently, divorce is to be avoided at all costs.
I was a single Pastor for 13 years, and I sometimes get asked questions that other Pastors are not asked, merely because they think that my former marital status will change my perspective on the issue. One of those issues is dating while separated. I have made the mistakes of trying to take shortcuts, and they ended up just being another trip around the mountain spinning my wheels. So as I write this article, I want to encourage you to take a deep breath, quiet your heart and emotions and listen to the still small voice of the Lord concerning this issue of dating while separated.